Just popping in to say hello and reassure everyone that I haven’t disappeared off the face of the earth. It’s just been really really busy! And if you ask me where most of my time goes — a question I asked myself recently — it turns out that I spend a lot of time talking to my children. It’s not planned or scheduled or anything. It’s just that, well, my kids always have something to talk to me about, whether a school project, a social situation, or just some deep philosophical issues they’re thinking about. That seems to run in the family — when I was their age I also used to think about deep philosophical questions. I don’t think I’ve grown out of it, either.

I homeschool my younger kids, and that certainly takes up a lot of time. We have a lot of fun exploring different subjects, learning new things, experimenting, and I love watching them grow and develop their unique personalities and interests. I’ve also been spending a lot of time driving, between schools and different homeschooling activities. And I’ve been dealing with some issues in our homeschooling group, which I would very much like to see growing and thriving.

So in the big scheme of things, I haven’t found much time to write (other than long emails to our homeschooling group), and I haven’t made much money in the past few weeks, but I feel that I’m investing in something much more precious and long-lasting. All that time spent with my children shapes them as people and as Jews, and they grow so fast that there is never enough time to invest into them in order to make a lasting impact. Because everybody can try to change the world, but we have the most influence in our own homes.

But not to worry, I have three stories coming up in Inyan, IY”H — will keep you posted.

Here is my article about Hakhel, in this week’s Jewish Home LA.

Good Shabbos, and have a wonderful Sukkos and a sweet, happy, healthy year!

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Here’s my article on the Jewish Leap Year in this week’s Jewish Home LA.

Good Shabbos, and kesiva v’chasima tova!

My short story, Changing Course, is in this week’s Inyan (Hamodia’s magazine). Hope you enjoy it. Please share your thoughts in the comments. I’m especially curious if the readers see any parallels between the conflicts portrayed in the story and what’s happening in the world today. Who are today’s Tzaddokim?

I’d be happy to share my own thoughts, but I’d like to hear from you first!

You can comment at yehudislitvak.com.

I wrote the following for my shul’s newsletter. Feel free to comment and discuss.

The beginning of the Jewish year, which roughly coincides with the beginning of the school year, forces us to consider our goals for our children’s chinuch. For all of us, the goals are two-fold. We would like our children to develop their unique strengths and talents and actualize their potential. At the same time, we’d like them to become productive members of the community, caring and giving people. At first glance, these goals seem contradictory: the former requires focus on oneself while the latter calls for focusing on others. But both are equally necessary.  The challenge is achieving the proper balance between the two.

According to the Nesivos Shalom (Vol. 1, part 1, chapter 6), self-reflection is an essential component of Judaism. He explains that every Jew has a unique mission in life that only he or she is able to fulfill, and every one of us must examine the gifts Hashem has given us in order to determine our mission. At the same time, in the words of Hillel (Pirkei Avos 1:14), “If I am not for myself, then who is for me? But if I am only for myself, what am I?” It is important to spend time getting to know oneself, but it is also important to use that knowledge to contribute to the community.

How do we achieve this delicate balance? In her book Stages of Spiritual Growth, Batya Gallant writes (page 67), “At a lower level of middas hachessed, my self-care and care for another operate intermittently – I alternate between self-care and care for the other. Yet at a more advanced level of middas hachessed, these two modes converge into one act, where care for myself is experienced through care for the other.” For young children, expressing themselves and giving to others are two separate modes of being. Both modes need to be accessed and experienced in order to grow. But as they mature, children begin to take pleasure in giving, in using their unique strengths and talents to benefit others.

The author of the Bilvavi series similarly describes two modes of being, alone and with others (Getting to Know Yourself, page 58). He recommends setting aside time to be alone, not for the sake of being alone, but in order to connect to the unique powers of our own neshamos and then bring those powers into the world and into our interactions with other people.

As we educate our children, we can explain these concepts to them in age-appropriate ways, encouraging them to discover their own strengths while emphasizing that Hashem gave them these gifts in order to fulfill their mission to help bring about the perfection and completion of His universe. May Hashem grant all of us success this coming year and always.

Just stopping by, in between shopping for school supplies (Do we really need this? They don’t have the right one! Why did I just spend so much money? What do you mean you forgot something??) and shoes (somehow kids’ shoes tend to develop holes right before the school year) and catching up on eye doctor and dentist appointments while our schedule is free… You get the picture. Nevertheless, despite all of that, this Shabbos is Rosh Chodesh Elul! Time to think about next year.

Here is my article in Jewish Home LA about local life coaches who help people achieve their goals.

Have a wonderful Shabbos and chodesh tov!

“There were no greater festivals for Israel than the 15th of Av and Yom Kippur.” (Gemara Taanis 26b)

Just like Yom Kippur, Tu B’Av was a day of forgiveness, when the generation that came out of Egypt stopped dying in the desert and Hashem forgave the Jewish people for the sin of the spies. On this day, certain restrictions on marriage were lifted. Also, the guards preventing Jews living in the kingdom of Yisrael from travelling to the Beis Hamikdash in Yehuda were removed. Rabbi Nivin says that Tu B’Av is a day of unity: between the Jewish people and Hashem and among each other.

In honor of Tu B’Av I wrote an article on matchmaking in Los Angeles. You can read it online here.

Have a wonderful Shabbos!

It’s Tisha B’Av, and I’m reading a book called One Jew’s Power, One Jew’s Glory by Yechiel Granatstein. It’s about Reb Yitzchak’l — Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Eliyahu Finkler, the Rebbe of Radoschitz, and his spiritual resistance during the Holocaust. I find it very inspiring.

Early on, before the deportation to the camps, Reb Yitzchak’l lost his wife. He comforted his daughters:

“When a person is attached to the Holy, Blessed One with every strand and thread of his being… when he is bound to our Maker with every fiber of his heart, and with all his heart he believes that it is He alone who makes everything happen — then he must, absolutely must accept the good and the bad equally — in the very same way. We have to accept that both come from His knowledge and His will — for His higher reasons, that we cannot always understand…” (page 50).

Later on, in the Skarszysko concentration camp, Reb Yitzchak’l continued to live according to these principles. His corner in the barracks became the spiritual center where people came to daven and to receive advise and encouragement. Even the Nazis were afraid to interrupt his davening and interfere with his spiritual activities.

Another inmate describes Yom Kippur in the camp:

“The Rebbe together with other Jews — he was there himself, right in their midst — were working away, unloading freight cars that were stacked with very heavy steel beams. The time came, however, when they suddenly noticed that the Rebbe was standing at the side, on the [platform]… and with immense d’veikus he was saying the prayers of this most holy and awesome day of the year… Suddenly one of the commandants of the camp appeared — a terrifying Nazi tyrant… Evidently he wanted to check and see how the enslaved Jews were working on Yom Kippur… Then his glance fell on the Rebbe. He watched him praying fervently, swaying back and forth in d’veikus, like a man who was not really there, not at all in this physical world of ours, but completely sundered from it. And this Nazi, this utterly vicious human animal, remained standing there as though paralyzed… he turned around and disappeared” (page 102).

Reb Yitzchak’l encouraged his fellow Jews not to give up hope, to continue living and waiting for liberation. He himself maintained a positive attitude. Another inmate describes a roll call where a “selection” would be made:

“I was standing near the Rebbe. I watched his lips moving, murmuring, with a smile on his face. His pleasant mood never left him! There he stood, whispering now to this man, now to that one, rousing, heartening, consoling, pouring into them his faith and trust in Hashem” (page 109).

A lofty level, but something to aspire to.

Gemara Sukkah 51b: “He who has not seen Jerusalem in its splendor, has never seen a beautiful city in his life. He who has not seen the Temple in its full construction has never seen a glorious building in his life. Which Temple? Abaye, or if you want, R. Hisda said: This refers to the building of Herod. What did he build it from? Rabbah said: Of yellow and white marble. There are those who say: With yellow, blue and white marble. The building rose in tiers in order to provide a hold for the plaster. He intended at first to overlay it with gold, but the Rabbis told him, Leave it alone for it is more beautiful as it is, since it has the appearance of the waves of the sea.” (English translation from sefaria.org.)

I thought it was interesting that Herod, known for his cruelty and ruthlessness, managed to build the most beautiful building in the world.

Who was Herod? The gemara in Bava Basra 3b-4a says that Herod was a former slave of the Chashmonaim who rebelled against his masters and killed all of the Chashmonai family. He pronounced himself king over the Jewish people, along the way killing all the rabbis so they wouldn’t object to a slave becoming king. He spared only one sage, Bava ben Buta, whom he blinded. Then, pretending to be somebody else, he attempted to provoke Bava ben Buta to curse him, but the sage refused. Realizing that killing the rabbis was a mistake, Herod asked Bava ben Buta how he could make amends for what he had done. The sage advised him to build a new and better building for the Beis Hamikdash, which Herod proceeded to do.

Did Herod become a better person by rebuilding the Beis Hamikdash? Highly unlikely, given that he murdered his own wife and sons. But he did make his mark on Yerushalyim – many walls built by Herod are still standing today.

Have a good Shabbos and a meaninful and inspiring Tisha B’Av!

Hi everyone!

This is the official first post of my new blog, located at yehudislitvak.com.

Today is erev Rosh Chodesh Av. We are about to intensify our mourning for the Beis Hamikdash. But this mourning is not meant to be a negative experience, crying about something we’re missing. The Nesivos Shalom (Bamidbar, page 190) says that the purpose of this time period is to arouse within us a desire for a rebuilt Beis Hamikdash.  This desire in itself is the beginning of the rebuilding process.

The more we learn about the Beis Hamikdash the greater is our desire to see it rebuilt. This article, which I wrote last year during the Three Weeks, walks you through the Beis Hamikdash and its service.

My new short story, The Secret Ingredient, which is set in Beis Hamikdash times, will be in Hamodia’s Inyan Magazine next week, July 22, IY”H.

Chodesh tov!

Yehudis